Communalization

I'm not sure how to sell this one. It is sort of a love thy neighbor bit, right along with form a little in-group and exclude thy neighbor. Let's weight the former and consider the latter as a reasonable warning.

The pragmatics of this idea might not be really sensible or workable. Maybe it is better just to use this idea as a set of standards to judge. I'm a family man in a sense of the word. And I'm a part of what I consider to be a pretty powerful friend association. What I'd like persons reading this to think about is when they are the most them. And when those things require serious modulation from group to group. Are you one way with the fam and another with the bros (or...sistas?...?). Chances are yes of course you are. Not the point. How much so? How can you feel most like you? When, where and with whom. Think about that. 

Also do something else for me. Figure out how you are in as many places and with as many people as possible (including while alone). And think about the optimal point of that. Think about reaching that point in more situations. Say...all the time. Impossible but well worth the try. And that I suppose is that for the time being.